But I wish everyone were single, just as I am. Yet each person has a special gift from God, of one kind or another. So I say to those who aren’t married and to widows—it’s better to stay unmarried, just as I am. But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust. -1 Corinthians 7:7-9
All throughout my teenage years into my early adulthood I was proud to be a virgin. There was nothing for me to be ashamed or embarrassed about. I am in my forties now and still am not sexually active, nor do I desire to be.
I never wanted a husband; I knew I never would get married ever since childhood. I always felt destined to be happily single and I am very content this way. God has different plans for everyone according to the way he designed and prepared our lives.
Within society things of a sexual nature have been heavily promoted and encouraged for many, many years. It has become the norm to have casual sexual relationships and encounters.
Those who do not engage in or refuse to partake in premarital sex would be considered old-fashioned, lame, unfashionable, abnormal- nothing especially attractive or exciting to the popular culture.
I didn’t care about the popular culture or what anyone concluded and was tired of certain people making a big deal in regard to my virginity, and tired of those who assumed I was waiting for or holding out until matrimony.
It was rare and unusual to be a virgin in the eyes of these people and they either found it hard to believe because they were caught up in their own temptation or found the circumstance refreshing because of the moral aspect.
With me, there was no lustful temptation or moral example that I sought to achieve. I was just being me, a part of the way God made me. He does things to show how powerfully and wonderfully he can work through us apart from the ways of the world and the flesh.
There are people who once indulged regularly or who had one or two sexual encounters outside of wedlock then eventually decided to become celibate until they found a marriage partner or to just devote themselves entirely to God.
If one is a virgin or celibate in this day and age it is the correct way to go, the right lifestyle to live in honor to God and in honor of oneself. Our bodies are precious temples of the Lord and he desires us to be holy unto him.
The Lord has no condemnation toward those struggling with sexual sin or other sins and addictions that are harmful to the mind or body. Anyone can go to him for redemption if they are willing. He gives us all a choice on whether or not to follow the world/culture or to follow him.
There is nothing corny or cliche about virginity and celibacy outside of a marriage. It is the way life was meant to be, and the way that it should be according to God.
Now regarding the questions you asked in your letter. Yes, it is good to abstain from sexual relations. -1 Corinthians 7:1
It is these who have not defiled themselves with women, for they are virgins. It is these who follow the Lamb wherever he goes. These have been redeemed from mankind as firstfruits for God and the Lamb -Revelation 14:4
For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ. -Galatians 1:10
Peer pressure happens among any age or social group. Anytime someone is propelled to do anything they really do not want to do in order to fit in or to remain in the favor of another is not good or honest no matter what the situation concerns.
No one should feel pressured by anyone to have premarital sex and no one should have sex too early on in life.
If one is at risk of losing a romantic interest or superficial/trivial social rank because they are hesitant or refuse to give in to another person’s sexual advances then so be it. There would be no true loss within the situation. Just pure gain.
Put God first in everything that you do and obtain all the riches and glory of his wisdom, refuge, and enormous blessings to inspiringly testify to.
The Lord loves his children with an everlasting adoration. He wants none of them to suffer through mistreatment, to be taken advantage of, or to devalue themselves by the selfish and disobedient hands of others who know right from wrong.
Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm. -Proverbs 13:20
Then Jesus stood up again and said to the woman, “Where are your accusers? Didn’t even one of them condemn you?” “No, Lord,” she said. And Jesus said, “Neither do I. Go and sin no more.” -John 8:10-11
A lot of people blame the reason for abortion on the result of immoral behavior such as fornication/premarital sex when indeed this is not always the case or the primary desire, remedy, or conclusion that everyone comes to.
There are wanted pregnancies outside of marriage and there are unwanted pregnancies inside of marriage, and I know for a fact there are plenty of married couples who opted for the convenience of having an abortion to terminate a pregnancy. I personally knew married people who aborted more than one child throughout their marriage.
Everybody cannot be generalized and scooped up into one category. Society has a habit of putting people into a widely held, fixed and oversimplified image or idea of what particular types of situations, individuals and things represent.
Marriage itself is not a safe haven for morality or justification when it focuses on sex, reproduction, and parenting.
There are people who get married for financial security, social status, or out of a feeling of obligation whether personal or religious.
Not everyone marries out of true love and to enter into a sacred commitment. Some even have open marriages with multiple sexual partners. Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. -Hebrews 13;4
There are single parents who raise their children up in better homes, or whose children turn out finer than those within a two-parent home, I know, I lovingly came from a one parent home- living with my mother’s side of the family- and I would not have changed the circumstance for the world because every man is not cut out to be a father and vice versa.
There were grown men who were jealous and resentful of me because their daughters and sons were out running wild and uncontrollably while I was the total opposite- not at all conformed to the ways of the world.
I had a very good mother who was spiritual and blessed by God and we were both lead by the spirit.
This is a fallen world (so certain untraditional as well as unfortunate things do and will happen) yet illegitimate children are not dismissed or unloved by God and neither or those who may have had children out of wedlock. Children are a gift from the LORD; they are a reward from him. -Psalms 127:3
God knows everyone’s situation and he knows their heart. A lot of people judge on what they do not know or see as God sees all- knowing our true conditions, regards and intentions. So don’t make judgments about anyone ahead of time—before the Lord returns. For he will bring our darkest secrets to light and will reveal our private motives. Then God will give to each one whatever praise is due. -1 Corinthians 4:5
“Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. For you will be treated as you treat others. The standard you use in judging is the standard by which you will be judged. “And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye. -Matthew 7:1-5
All unwed mothers or even fathers are not promiscuous or unrighteous. Some women get raped, deceived, or are just unconventional within distinction. The same goes with men, they may get misled, seduced or they too may have their own distinct mindset.
When my mother got pregnant with me my father told her to get an abortion. She refused his suggestion because she wanted me -not him (she was not looking or depending on my father to help her take care of me)- and she was not at all ashamed when she had me.
My grandfather (my mother’s father) completely supported her decision to have me and told her “I am glad you want to keep your baby”, and he was a very gifted and intelligent man who believed in God.
This article is in no way promoting fornication/premarital sex or glorifying childbirth to unmarried people. What I am laying out as a fact is that marriage is not the solution to preventing abortion and sex outside of wedlock is not the genuine culprit resulting in many abortions.
It is all about listening to God and putting him first.
If individuals honored God in everything they did or at least made an effort to then these issues would be less of a major problem and burden within society.
A marriage between individuals lead by God would be in genuine love, respect, partnership, faith and obedience to the Lord. Therefore, the event of an abortion would not exist upon the conception of an unplanned, unexpected, or possible inconvenient arrival of a child (due to financial or other setbacks and limitations), however, when decisions are based on one’s own lack of faith and/or followed by one’s own way and selfish desire this is where things tend to go wrong.
Commendably, we do have believers in the world who are the prime examples of a wonderful adoring God-blessed union. Everybody encounters their own troubles and problems but for the most part their life is spiritually finer within contribute to the Lord’s presence. “Now therefore, O sons, listen to me, For blessed are they who keep my ways. -Proverbs 8:32
The same goes for single people. It is not the fornication and unwanted pregnancy that results in abortion. It is not taking heed to what the Lord instructs on how to live and conduct our lives.
If the entire world adhered to God’s principles there would be no sexual immorality or abortions.
There are plenty of things we do not agree with or want in this world and present life, yet we still must yield to the word of God instead of what we may deem as suitable, regardless of how unfair or not right it may seem to us. Trust in the LORD with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take. -Proverbs 3:5-6
If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking. -James 1:5
Listen to the Lord, and not to man’s self-serving and deceitful interpretation of what the bible directs. And now I make one more appeal, my dear brothers and sisters. Watch out for people who cause divisions and upset people’s faith by teaching things contrary to what you have been taught. Stay away from them. Such people are not serving Christ our Lord; they are serving their own personal interests. By smooth talk and glowing words they deceive innocent people. -Romans 16:17-18
For a time is coming when people will no longer listen to sound and wholesome teaching. They will follow their own desires and will look for teachers who will tell them whatever their itching ears want to hear. -2 Timothy 4:3
God does not give out specific rules to us to withhold, limit, or to destroy our contentment and wellbeing. It is the mere opposite. His guidance is to protect, preserve, and maintain our wellness through the wisdom and knowledge that we are unable to grasp within his solicitous attention and care for us.
Satan seeks to steal away all that God originally had planned for us because he has a vendetta against the Lord. We are just tools in his scheme to build against God to tear up the beauty that he constructed by puncturing out the image of his creation.
Satan is a liar, a thief and a murderer. He wants to take as many people to hell with him as possible. Don’t let him manipulate or persuade you. Turn and go to Jesus who sets all things straight and right. He is the truth, a giver, a healer and a restorer.
God is not anxious to condemn you for your errors he is eager to save and to redeem you from them altogether! The Lord isn’t really being slow about his promise, as some people think. No, he is being patient for your sake. He does not want anyone to be destroyed, but wants everyone to repent. -2 Peter 3:9
The Lord earnestly desires for you to come to know him so that he can teach you the truth in how to walk correctly in this life so that you will walk perfectly within the next.
Give your life to Jesus, he will never abort you!
Those who know your name trust in you, for you, O LORD, do not abandon those who search for you. -Psalms 9:10
Now may the God of peace make you holy in every way, and may your whole spirit and soul and body be kept blameless until our Lord Jesus Christ comes again. 1 Thessalonians 5:23
Daily Inspirations By Miss LaToya Lawrence 